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The Insufficient Homosexual

Stories from a man who fails to meet media expectations of what it means to be gay:
white, frivolous, over sexed yet sexless, shrill, single, stylish, a clown, unimportant, et al.


Fri 01/25/2002

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Nico the weirdo




I was having a conversation with someone the other day, and it turns out that I am strange, that I am a weirdo. The decision was made because I have never been single. An overstatement, but what they meant was that I haven't been single since college. In other words, while "most guys" spend their twenties figuring out who they are and having fun in the process, I was: "stuck at home being married."

Thus, I am a weirdo.

This is just the latest conversation I have had with someone over the years where it was pronounced that I was strange, odd, goofy, or, not quite normal.

He is some more proof:


I hate shopping for clothes.
I don't like trying on clothes. I don't like wandering around stores looking at clothes. I don't like trying to remember if I already own the one article of clothing I wouldn't mind purchasing. Then again, if it's a plaid shirt, I probably already do.

None of this should matter, except for the entire gay thing. I am expected to love clothes shopping. Thing is, I do know how to dress well and on occasion can manage to look good. I just rarely feel like it. Should my gay boy license be revoked?


I've never been drunk.
I sometimes think that people assume I'm in AA or something when I order nonalcoholic drinks on the rare occasions that I go out. The truth is much more mundane. As I've gotten older, I've lost my taste for most alcohol.

I did drink when I was younger, but never with abandon and never to the point of actually being inebriated. For me, the point of going out was to have fun dancing and checking out guys, not cleaning up vomit from my clothes the next day. There was also the entire alcohol costs money factor. I was very poor in college. Given the choice between eating, or buying liquor, I chose food.

Some people don't accept my usual explanations of poverty, lack of interest, and habit as the reasons for never having been drunk. It has been suggested that instead, I am actually a control freak who refuses to get drunk because he is too afraid to loosen up. Maybe there is some truth to that as well.

Maybe I am a control freak, or as John can attest to, maybe I don't need any chemical help to get uninhibited or strange.


I hate menudo*.
Is it the bleagh flavor? Is it the nasty, chewy texture of the tripe? I don't know. I don't care. I don't like it.

Which is usually only considered odd in my family. I'm sure I have relatives who remember me as the weird kid who wouldn't eat menudo. I specify "usually," because there was one occasion in college when an overly eager Chicana activist implied that my not liking menudo meant that I was ashamed of my being Mexican-American.

I wonder which fact would have made it worse, that I'm gay, or that I don't like napales** either.


I've never smoked.

Living in California, my not being a smoker is not considered odd. What is considered strange is that I've never tried.

I blame this on a very effective anti-smoking lesson in seventh grade health class. I don't remember the lecture itself, but I can clearly recall the vivisectioned lungs we passed around class that day. One was of a nonsmoker and looked normal. The other was of a man who had died of cancer in his mid fifties. His lung was shrunken and was blackened with tar. It was disgusting. It was nasty. It was and still is the reason I have never been tempted to smoke.


I read comics.
When people find out that I "still" read comics, they tend to look at me funny. I've given people the comic books are a medium for telling a stories, not a genre itself lecture. That there can be more to it than men in tight spandex duking it out in Freudian battles. It doesn't matter. They still think: "gosh, isn't he a little old to be reading batman?"

Then again, if they did ask what it was I actually read, I would then have to admit to reading "all ages" fare like akiko and bone.


I've never done "that" with a woman.
Somehow the entire gay thing doesn't matter. For some reason, I'm strange for never having had sex with a woman. Admittedly, in my experience it has usually been straight men who think this. It has usually been straight men who wonder why I have never done this, if nothing else to satisfy curiosity.

Of course, my usual response to the curiosity argument is to ask them if they have ever had sex with another man "just out of curiosity." That usually shuts 'em up.



more later,

nico



Music:
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Want:
A green mango shake.


[*menudo is a tripe soup, traditionally eaten Sunday mornings.]
[**napales = cactus]


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