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Stories from a man who fails to meet media expectations of what it means to be gay:
white, frivolous, over sexed yet sexless, shrill, single, stylish, a clown, unimportant, et al.
Mon 12/10/2001
Divorce sans Marriage sans Sleep
The weather has been odd recently. Last Friday and Saturday were gorgeous days. Nary a cloud in the sky and pleasantly warm. So warm, that people were running around christmas shopping in shorts n� sandals, myself included.
On the other hand, Sunday was cold, overcast and cold. There was a brief thunderstorm that night, with wind, lightning, thunder and five minutes of hard, quick rain. Then, by nine it was over.
With all the noise, the cats weren�t pleased. I wasn�t doing that great either. Last night was another night of not enough sleep. I was a good boy and went to bed at ten, but I didn�t actually fall asleep until four AM, or there abouts. Not so great, considering that I need to get up at six to be at work on time.
Part of my night was spent holding John, listening to him breathe. Part of the night was spent on lying on my back, listening to night noises. Unfortunately, regardless of where, or how I lay, I had the dangdest time falling asleep.
Work has been very stressful and I tried not to think about it. The holidays have been stressful and I tried not to think about it. I tried not to think about anything and I failed miserably.
I lay there thinking about how far behind I am at work, about how behind I am at getting presents and I lay there there thinking about friends.
At a party Saturday night, John and I found out that some friends of ours had broken up. Tess and Sue are no more. No one seems to know any real details, other than that one of them was in Bosnia recently for business and had a fling. I don�t know if the break up is permanent, or if they will try to work things out. I hope that they can, which may be selfish of me. I guess I should be hoping that whatever would be the best for them happens, but the truth is, I want them to stay together.
Not only do I want them to be together, I want them to be happy about it as well dammit.
They aren�t the only couple that we know who have called it quits recently. Alex and Omar broke up last month because of infidelity and a lie concerning an escort service. I would share the details, except that it isn�t my story and it�s not my place to do so, other than to say that it hasn�t been easy for either of them.
Less recently, Bird and Rose decided over the summer that they had had enough. After twenty plus years, they want to be single again. They still live in the same house and as far as I can tell, their relationship is pretty much the same as before. I don�t know if that is a comment on their level of maturity, or if merely shows that things really weren�t going well for them brfore the breakup.
Even earlier, Arturo and Bryan stopped dating months ago, partially due to the pressures of a long distance relationship and partially due to one of them deciding that maybe he was straight. This hasn�t stopped him from sleeping with every single man he can get his hands on, but then again, I never did understand the particular young man in question.
During lunch with Kristen on Sunday, she mentioned that a mutual lawyer friend of ours has an often told joke about how our community has divorce before marriage. Kristen also mentioned that an accountant friend of hers hates it when her gay/lesbian clients break up. Not because of any sentimental reasons, but rather because our lack of legal right to marry apparently often results in extremely convoluted and intertwined mutual finances and properties. All of which results in headaches and lots of extra work for the accountant friend.
I�m in a morose mood and this is proving to not be one of my usual this was the weekend that was entries.
If it were, I�d have to mention having lunch with a friend from college that I haven�t seen in ten years, going to a holiday party at Barb and Laurie, and watching/making fun of a cheesy mid-eighties, Hong Kong action flick with Kristen.
But it�s not.
more later,
nico
Music:
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